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One Year Later: A Dance of Grief and Grace.


There are moments in life that feel destined—as though the universe orchestrates every detail to lead you to a specific place, at a specific time, to feel something you didn't know you needed. That was me, sitting in the third row of a dimly lit theater, the soft glow of the stage casting shadows that flickered like ghosts across the velvet seats. Earlier that day, I had traced the cool stone of my beloved mother’s headstone, laying spring flowers in the vase of her final resting place and gazing up at the blue cloudless sky to talk with her. I thought that would be the deepest ache of my day.


But fate had other plans.


The haunting strains of music began, and the stage bloomed to life. A young lady emerged—ethereal, draped in a gown of soft pink tulle and lace that clung to her like a second skin. The delicate ruffles of her skirt whispered across the stage as they trailed behind her, catching in the wind of her movement, tangling around her pale limbs like memories we can never entirely escape. Twin straps of dainty lace framed her shoulders, the blush bodice a fragile armor against the weight of the story she carried. She moved as though caught between worlds, each graceful step heavy with yearning and lifeless sorrow, her long dark blonde hair twisting and tangling around her as if it, too, couldn’t bear to let go.


I sat frozen, my breath caught in my throat, my daughter’s head leaning against mine in a shared realization of the grief from the day and the past months as it marked the first anniversary of my mom’s passing. The performance didn’t just speak—it screamed in the silence between movements, echoing the quiet and consistent ache.


At the start of the performance, the choreographer asked the balletgoers, "Have you ever had a dream about someone who passed away? What's the feeling you're left with?" My daughter and I exchanged unbelievable looks. We knew what this day meant yet were utterly unprepared for what lay ahead.


That lingering ache, that bittersweet presence—it was there, woven into every thread of lace, every turn and leap. It was a story of souls divided, mothers and children reaching for each other through the veil of death. Her delicate and desperate movements painted the very portrait of longing I knowingly hold onto.


And there I was—a daughter mourning her mother, beside my own daughter who wept for the day she would lose me. A shared irony too tragic to be anything but divinely ordered. The weight of that combined grief settled around us, thick as the heavy air of the theater. The woman on stage could have been my own mother—or perhaps she was me, wrapped in soft tulle and sorrow, caught between holding on and letting go. The silent exchange between us, mother and daughter, mirrored in the soft rustle of lace and the slow, breaking movements that blurred the line between dancer and soul writer.


We sobbed beside strangers, our mourning a tangled thread woven into the haunting beauty before us. The choreographer had captured the heartbreak of finality yet dangled the fragile hope of reunion like a delicate thread threatening to unravel. I couldn't shake the feeling that my mother had led me there, whispering through every pirouette, every lingering touch of fabric against skin, especially as she was a dancer herself, having taught lessons to many and loving every moment of it.

My mother would have been in rapture, as was I and as was her granddaughter. Even as I write this now, I cling to the idea that in the empty seat beside my daughter, she was there—sobbing, yearning, and grieving the lack of communication allowed between the realms yet wishing and sharing the same emotions as us.  


As we departed the theater that crisp, cool night, we clung to each other. No words were spoken—none were needed. That night, that performance had stitched us closer, weaving our grief and love into a tapestry of unspoken understanding. We were meant to be there, wrapped in that moment of heartbreak and beauty, a reminder that we are never truly alone in our loss. They are waiting beyond our reach, loving and yearning for us as we do them.

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                                     INNER THOUGHTS.


              OUTER WORDS.

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